very early sunday morning, i called the police on my sociopathic gentleman caller. we had not had any contact for about three weeks, other than a midnight knock at my door about ten days ago that i did not answer. saturday night we saw each other in the lobby, although at that time we did not acknowledge one another’s presence. still i knew that at some point in the evening he’d be knocking at my door to try and f*ck with me, literally or figuratively, because he had seen me. and a couple of hours later, faithful to who he is, there was his tap at my door.
basically his purpose in showing up was to intimidate, as apparently he is still mad at me for not coming up with the money to get his car out of the police impound lot, where apparently it still sits nearly a month later. our last communication consisted of a note i left on his mailbox telling him to leave me alone, to stop harassing me, and that i would involve apartment management and the police if he didn’t. i also called him a loser in the note, saying i wanted nothing to do with him, and called his car raggedy and ghetto-ass. i told him to use the energy he was expending toward me towards getting his car back instead. his saturday night visit consisted of him calling me racist because i dissed his car, telling me i was the loser because i had previously had sex with a trans-sexual (say what?!; i know he was referring to a previous relationship with a boyfriend who turned out to be gay, but he needs to get his terminology right!), and that he had gone to the police because of my previous two notes (i wrote a note back in mid-may calling him a liar and once again asking him to leave me alone). the police had supposedly told him that *i* was harassing *him* because of the notes and that *he* could take *me* to court, but he wasn’t going to do that, although i suggested that he go right ahead. also, the fact that i let him in, both three weeks ago, and this past saturday night, supposedly negated any argument that i had against his harassing me, according to him.
where he f*cked up, though, was the fact that although he did not verbally threaten me, his actions toward me where physically threatening. saturday night there were two initial times when i verbally clearly told him to leave and physically indicated the same thing by unlocking my front door and attempting to open it. however, both times he shut the door and indicated that he wasn’t leaving. the second time he then put his arms above where i was standing against a closet door. i believe he was going to attempt to kiss me, then wisely thought better of it. i had to ask him several times at that moment to put his arms down and step back, and he kept asking me why, and if he made me nervous, and then asked me if i wanted to hit him, to which i answered no. however, i believe he was trying to coerce me into making the first physical move so he could act against me. at any rate, he made some comment about my neighbors not believing me if i said something to them about him being there against my will, and i said something about the way he was acting at that moment justifying getting the police involved. finally a third time i asked him to leave, very loudly, with the door open so my neighbors would be able to hear it, and he reluctantly left, but not before telling me that i was crazy and i needed professional help. he’s a f*cking sociopath, i’m telling you.
he kept telling me how smart he was, but if he was so smart, he should have left well enough alone after my last note, and just not had any contact with me. or even if he did, even though i was foolish enough to open the door this last time, he should have been smart enough to not act physically threatening toward me. i guess he thought he could physically and verbally intimidate me into just putting up with his harassment for the indefinite future, but having grown up in a home where this type of abuse was a regular occurrence between my parents, there’s no way i’m going to put up with that now. i called the police, and was told of course that i did have options. they found him (he was not in his apartment, but, ironically, had gone outside to shoot the shit with apartment security after his visit to me) and *i assume* let him know that he is to have *no contact* with me. (i’m sure he told them that i’m mentally unstable and a liar, which isn’t true, but what can i do when he’s the mentally unstable liar?)
this morning i spoke with the apartment management first thing about options in dealing with him. she said there wasn’t a whole lot she can do at this point, because he wasn’t officially arrested the other night, and it’s hard because we live in the same building. however, the security guy will keep an eye on him and if he’s on my floor (after the ex parte is approved) he can be arrested. also, i asked her what he might have said about me. he had told me saturday that he had warned management about me, although i’m not sure what he could possibly have warned her about that would be true. anyway, she said that he had never spoken to her about me. in addition, this morning i also went to the jackson county courthouse to get an immediate ex parte filed against him, and to set a court date regarding a restraining order. i’m currently waiting to hear back regarding the judge’s approval. finding another place to live is really not a viable option because i plan to move out-of-state in the next few months and to move now within the city would be inconvenient, to say the least.
i was not physically fearful before saturday night; i figured i could handle his words, because i know that ultimately whatever he says about me has absolutely nothing to do with who i really am. however, if i don’t feel physically safe in my own home, it is my obligation to myself and potentially to other women to do something about it, to the best of my ability.